Why survivors wait to report

Welcome to today’s edition of The V Word.  Your host today is Carol Olson.

Listen to today’s episode here

You have been hearing a lot about the charge against Bill Cosby for sexual assaulting numerous women. The question I have been hearing the most is “Why did they wait so long to report” “Why now?”

The reality is that many survivors of sexual assault wait to report. They can wait several days or wait years.  and statistics show that 60% of rapes are not reported to the police.

There are many reasons why survivors do not feel safe to report immediately.  The Sexual Assault Victim Advocacy Center has posted information on the reasons why:

Safety is an important factor. Many survivors will face further abuse, face stalking and harassment by the offender if they report, face retaliation in the workforce and in their social lives.

  • The victim may feel that she/he is to blame for what happened – and our society continues to blame victims of rape and abuse.
  • The victim may feel embarrassed about what happened – a dynamic that continues to be feed through our society that victims should be able to control the perpetrator.
  • The victim may believe that the justice system is uncooperative, inefficient, or victim-blaming.
  • The victim may not want the perpetrator to get in trouble – most perpetrators are known to the survivor and society still gives the message that it is the perpetrators life to not be ruined.
  • The victim may not want her/his family to find out.
  • The victim may not recognize that she/he was raped – our society gives many false messages about what rape is.
  • The victim may have been threatened by the perpetrator – threats to hurt her/him, threats to hurt loved ones, or threats against their career.
  • The victim may fear retaliation by the perpetrator if she/he was to report.
  • The victim may fear that she/he will not be believed and is obvious, survivors are not always believed.
  • The victim may have already had a bad experience with the police.
  • The victim may know someone who reported and had a bad experience with the police.
  • The victim’s friends and/or family may not support reporting.
  • The victim’s friends and/or family are telling the victim it was not rape.
  • There may be cultural considerations that lead the victim to avoid the police at all costs.

 

What can you do?

 

Need to find the statute of limitations on reporting sexual assault in your state, you can find information on the Victims of Crime . org website   (our blog will have the direct link for you)

 

http://victimsofcrime.org/our-programs/dna-resource-center/untested-sexual-assault-kits/sexual-assault-kit-backlog-laws/sexual-assault-statute-of-limitations-resources

 

In Virginia, there are no statutes of limitations in reporting.  You can report at any time.  Also, in 2007 then Governor Tim Kaine put in force Executive Orders that states a survivor of violence can go to an emergency room and request a PERK exam, that is a physical evidence recovery kit, without having to report to police and that the state will store the evidence until the survivor is ready to report. As evidence needs to be retrieved from the body, usually within 72 hours, this order allows survivors to have evidence collected but still have time to report.

 

Other places you can find information in Virginia is: Department of Criminal Justice Services website  www.dcjs.virginia.gov  


For information on how to report an assault in the Richmond, Virginia, USA are, you can call the non-emergency line at 804-646-5100 or go by a local police station office.  The main Richmond office is located at 200 West Grace Street.  

To get a forensic exam to collect evidence and receive medical care, the local hospitals in the Richmond area with Forensic Nurse Examiners are at Medical College of Virginia and St. Mary’s Hospital.

For help with counseling and advocacy, local rape crisis centers, child advocacy centers and domestic violence shelters can provide services.  To find a center closest to you… you can call the Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-838-8238.   That is the Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-838-8238.

Want to share a story or ask a question?  Email me at thevword.radio@gmail.com or tweet me at my twitter account:  @preventviolence.  You can read the transcript for this show and past shows on my blog at www.thevword.org

The V Word is recorded in the studios of WRIR-LP 97.3 and streamed at wrir.org, read and produced by Carol Olson and Jennifer Gallienne.  Sound Engineering is provided by Bryon Connelly. Music is provided by the Etching Tin.

The V Word: A Fight for Justice

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Welcome to today’s edition of the V Word. Today we talk about the Rolling Stone’s article published last week about the gang rape that happened at a fraternity house on University of Virginia’s campus. A campus located 1 hour from the WRIR studio here in Richmond.

We stand in solidarity with the survivors on this campus, the survivor that shared their story for this article, and for those fighting to make sure that sexual assault against all people is taking just as serious as fraternities and college football. We hope that this survivor and all survivors on campus have the support they need right now. We are here to listen.

You can listen to the episode here

 

Do you need help or information?  Here are some options…

If you have been assaulted and feel comfortable with calling the police, call 911.

If you are not comfortable with talking to the police, but want to talk to someone, you can call  the Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-838-8238.

You can now text/chat The Virginia Hotline Monday through Friday 4pm-8pm at http://www.vsdvalliance.org/

Text: (804) 793-9999 Monday-Friday 4pm-8pm to speak to someone today!

If you have been assaulted in the last 72 hours you can get a  forensic exam to collect evidence and receive medical care. You can do this with and without reporting to the police. The local hospitals in the Richmond area with Forensic Nurse Examiners are at Medical College of Virginia and St. Mary’s Hospital.

Do you want to know how you can help?

Get involved with your local domestic violence/rape crisis agency.  Donate to services that help survivors recover and heal.

Want to share a story or ask a question?  Email me at thevword.radio@gmail.com or tweet me at my twitter account:  @preventviolence.  You can read the transcript for this show and past shows on my blog at www.thevword.org

Today’s host was Jenn Gallienne. The V Word is recorded in the studios of WRIR-LP 97.3 and streamed at wrir.org, The V Word is produced by Carol Olson. Music was created by The Etching Tin

Transgender Day of Remembrance

 

Welcome to today’s edition of the V WORD. Today’s topic is on The Transgender Day of Remembrance.

If you missed it listen here

 

Important links:

http://www.youcaring.com/other/find-sage-smith/256254

Almost two years later, Sage’s family, alongside friends and community members, is putting new energy into this effort to find answers, and we need your help. The Wayside Center for Popular Education is sponsoring a campaign to raise funds that will go towards these efforts to find answers. We have set our goal for $5,000 so that we can ensure that we have the resources to put quality work into the search efforts, and any form of contribution from you or your community will go a long way. -

https://www.facebook.com/events/1410982992525234/ Remembering Sage Event this Thursday Nov 20th/ Charlottesville TDOR

https://www.facebook.com/sagesmithmatters  Sage Smith is Our Community Facebook page

https://www.facebook.com/events/383288121825223/ Richmond’s 2014 TDOR

 

ADDITIONAL ACTIVITES:

Passing Is Political: Trans People of Color Speak
Date: Nov 18th
Time: 6:30pm
Location: Univ of Richmond Downtown Campus (626 E Broad St, Richmond VA 23219)
What: panel discussion, hosted by SONG
***This event is open to trans* and GQ/GNC individuals only***
RSVP the Facebook event: https://www.facebook.com/events/748466535230447

Richmond Transgender Day of Remembrance Memorial Service
Date: Nov 20th
Time: 7:00pm
Location: The Byrd Theatre (2908 W. Cary St, Richmond, VA 23221)
MAIN EVENT: Please RSVP at https://www.facebook.com/events/383288121825223/

A Night at The Speakeasy: Trans* and Allies Social Night
Date: Nov 22nd
Time: 6:00pm to 8:00pm
Location: The Speakeasy at The Hippodrome (526 N. 2nd St, Richmond, VA 23219)
What: Drinks, networking, and mingle event, sponsored by the Richmond Business Alliance
Featuring DJ Connie Sue of ANIMAL RVA
Please RSVP at http://www.richmondbusinessalliance.com/event-1793188
Facebook event available here: https://www.facebook.com/events/752733134763477

Community Conversation: Genderqueer & Gender Nonconforming Identities
Date: Nov 23rd
Time: 2-4pm
Location: GCCR Classroom (1407 Sherwood Ave, Richmond, VA 23220)
What: panel discussion, hosted by SAGE
RSVP the Facebook event: https://www.facebook.com/events/1532502963662291/

Film Screening: Beautiful Boxer
Date: Nov 24th
Time: 6:30pm
Location: Richmond Triangle Players (1300 Altamont Ave, Richmond, VA 23230)
What: film screening, hosted by SONG
RSVP the Facebook event: https://www.facebook.com/events/1496156143997771

Email: rvatdor@gmail.com

 

 

Want to share a story or ask a question?  Email me at thevword.radio@gmail.com or tweet me at my twitter account:  @preventviolence.  You can read the transcript for this show and past shows on my blog at www.thevword.org

Today’s host was Jenn Gallienne. The V Word is recorded in the studios of WRIR-LP 97.3 and streamed at wrir.org, The V Word is produced by Carol Olson. Music was created by The Etching Tin

The V Word- The Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline

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Welcome to today’s edition of The V Word. Today we are talking about a statewide domestic violence and sexual assault hotline.

The Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action alliance has this information about their hotline on their website:

You deserve safety and support. Whether someone has hurt you in the past or is hurting you now, we’re here to listen and to help.

If you are a friend, family member, or professional wondering how to help someone, or just want to know more about sexual assault, stalking, controlling behavior, or intimate partner violence…call us.

We will listen, offer support, and connect you to resources in your area.

Free. Confidential. 24 hours a day.

Listen to today’s episode for information about the Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline and all of it’s services that are available, including the new chat option as well as the LGBTQ Helpine!

Listen to today’s episode here

 

Do you need help or information?  Here are some options…

If you have been assaulted and feel comfortable with calling the police, call 911.

If you are not comfortable with talking to the police, but want to talk to someone, you can call  the Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-838-8238.

You can now text/chat The Virginia Hotline Monday through Friday 4pm-8pm at http://www.vsdvalliance.org/

Text: (804) 793-9999 Monday-Friday 4pm-8pm to speak to someone today!

If you have been assaulted in the last 72 hours you can get a  forensic exam to collect evidence and receive medical care. You can do this with and without reporting to the police. The local hospitals in the Richmond area with Forensic Nurse Examiners are at Medical College of Virginia and St. Mary’s Hospital.

Do you want to know how you can help?

Get involved with your local domestic violence/rape crisis agency.  Donate to services that help survivors recover and heal.

Want to share a story or ask a question?  Email me at thevword.radio@gmail.com or tweet me at my twitter account:  @preventviolence.  You can read the transcript for this show and past shows on my blog at www.thevword.org

Today’s host was Jenn Gallienne. The V Word is recorded in the studios of WRIR-LP 97.3 and streamed at wrir.org, The V Word is produced by Carol Olson. Music was created by The Etching Tin

 

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The V Word Interview – Trace Fleming

traceflemingadvocatesToday we interview Trace G. Fleming, activist and advocate working to end violence against women. She is the creator of both the Advocate News and Self-Care for Advocates, platforms on Facebook to serve advocates. Today she talks about her work starting a Feminist organization, WISE; her work as the Coordinator of the Abuse in Later Life Project and hosting Self-Care for Advocates to be able to provide therapeutic care for advocates suffering from vicarious trauma and burnout.

You can listen to the interview here

Tiffany Jana- Remember My Name

Welcome to today’s edition of the V Word!

 

Joining us today is Tiffany Jana talking about YWCA’s Remember My Name Event on October 30,2014 in Richmond VA. Tiffany Jana is the CEO of local diversity and inclusion firm TMI Consulting. She will be delivering the keynote at the event and will speak from her experience as a domestic violence survivor.

Since 1995, the YWCA of Richmond has been the host of Remember My Name, a memorial service to commemorate the lives of individuals in our community who have died as a result of domestic violence. Remember My Name is a nationwide event honoring victims of domestic violence.

 

Listen to the episode here

For more information visit the YWCA website here 

 

 

Do you need help or information?  Here are some options…

If you have been assaulted and feel comfortable with calling the police, call 911.

If you are not comfortable with talking to the police, but want to talk to someone, you can call  the Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-838-8238.

You can now text/chat The Virginia Hotline at http://www.vsdvalliance.org/

If you have been assaulted in the last 72 hours you can get a  forensic exam to collect evidence and receive medical care. You can do this with and without reporting to the police. The local hospitals in the Richmond area with Forensic Nurse Examiners are at Medical College of Virginia and St. Mary’s Hospital.

For help with counseling and advocacy, find a Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Agency near you . To find a center near you  call the Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-838-8238.  

Are  you a family member or a bystander and want know how you can help?

Get involved with your local domestic violence/rape crisis agency.  Donate to services that help survivors recover and heal. The Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline is also available to family/partners/loved ones/ and allied professionals.

Want to share a story or ask a question?  Email me at thevword.radio@gmail.com or tweet me at my twitter account:  @preventviolence.  You can read the transcript for this show and past shows on my blog at www.thevword.org

Today’s host was Carol Olson. The V Word is recorded in the studios of WRIR-LP 97.3 and streamed at wrir.org, The V Word is produced by Carol Olson. Music was created by The Etching Tin