The V Word

I wondered if anyone ever had this issue: A few years ago, I discovered what I believed was clear evidence [in writing] that the older adult male my daughter was unfortunately involved with had engaged in *choking *her, and other violence such as shoving her against something and threatening to throw her off a high porch. He was also engaging in psychological abuse/control telling her she had to choose between HIM and her family. [He was almost thirty and still living with his parents; my daughter was about 19].

I was upset and concerned; and I called the local police to ask what I could do about it. I was fairly stunned when they said NOTHING; that my daughter would be the only one who could file charges. I knew that wasn’t going to happen. And it didn’t.

A year or two later, I did see that something had been “passed” supposedly to take *acts of choking and strangulation* more “seriously” *legally*; at least on paper. However, if a young woman [for whatever reason] is *unable* to face the truth about this kind of dangerous conduct and abuse, and refuses *to report it*, what good will *a statute taking acts of strangulation more seriously* do? There is still a guy out there who is *very likely* going to end up killing sooner or later, one or more females. It seemed kind of ridiculous that a few years [which add up to age 18 ] would remove the ability to protect a family member [or anyone] from someone evidence indicates is a potential killer. [Evidence was this 19 yr old’s handwritten list of *abuses by this 30 year old man.* There were childishly drawn “hearts” added above the title “Things to Remember”.]. She is alive today; but certainly damaged by this troubling exposure to serious abuse; about which law enforcement seemed *very* disinterested, frankly. I read a lot* publicized* about funding and certain entities’ “interest” in combating abuse, which [based on my experiences] makes me feel like someone is “sponsoring” a fraudulent ticker-tape parade celebrating some supposed “interest” and desire to appropriately* address* abuses by males against against females, when *that desire doesn’t exist at all* in any way that really matters or gives meaningful results. I have reason to believe that it is possible that illusions of “help” for women are actually serving as *propaganda* to hide a *worsening *of the situation . And this is dangerous; because I think these “illusions” give false hope and send misleading messages that there are actually people in positions of power who have a desire and will to honor, protect and validate females and to do what is truly *meaningful* and necessary to end male discrimination and abuses against females. I don’t believe there are any such people in place.

A recent bill [once again*]* seeking gender equality is listed as *”dead”*.

Please, don’t spread false hope.

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